Stereotypes abound around introverts and extroverts-most of them are simply untrue. The stereotypes go too far in categorizing behaviors. Part of the issue flows from the Myers-Briggs and its binary assignment of introversion/extroversion. You are simply one or the other…completely, according to that tool (of which I am not a big fan).
This article provides a succinct, accurate definition based on Jung’s work:
Shyness and being outgoing don’t have anything to do with it; it’s more about where we get our energy from. In fact, the differences are pretty simple:
- Introverts get exhausted by social interaction and need solitude to recharge.
- Extroverts get anxious when left alone and get energy from social interaction.
That’s it. There’s nothing about shyness, being a homebody, or how adventurous you are. Both types can be social, both can creative, both can be leaders, and so on.
Remarkably simple, is it not? The binary issue still exists as there truly is a spectrum to introversion/extroversion. People tend to vary, or move, between them. Jung called these people “ambiverts.” This is key in leadership. People definitely have a preference and lean towards one side or the other. But rarely do you find someone who is categorically wired one way, though there are some.
I often tell leaders to focus on the energy of the salesperson. Some gain energy in the group while others lose it. Neither one is better, just be cognizant of the difference and you will be a more effective leader.